If someone cannot explain themselves calmly, they shouldnt be talking yet. Children usually learn this one way or the other, by example.

• About emotions (examples: fear, hurt, things that lead to raising ones voice, not listening or being able to think clearly about problem-solving)emotions MAIN
• instead they should think & prepare more.
• Ie, i propose, that if one cannot speak calmly and in a way thoughtfully intended to help, that they should not expect others to listen to them.
• What part of the Saviors teachings suggest raising our voices to each other?
• It is OK to say: I am not sure how to articulate (explain) it right now.
• It is OK to say: I am not comfortable. I would rather take some time to think about this. And then the other shouldnt push it. (if urgent--trade trust/resp?)
• It is OK, after trying very hard over time, to say: I cant explain this but feel strongly,so would you pray about it...? And we try to achieve harmony in God.
• Maybe sometimes we just need to say "I am having a hard time and need time to regroup" or such. That is a good time to clarify that there is yet love & hope.
• Exceptions are at the listeners choice, such as a parent helping a child, or someone else, or not.
• It might be a good time to remind the other that we care, love them, and want to help them, doing the right thing, but anyone can need time to think.
• We cannot use emotions alone in decision-making or to push each other. If those loom large, make a list of factors, then step back & consider why each, discuss.