FIRST: ~"Make the comfort and well-being of your spouse your primary concern" (Hinckley)

• FIRST: ~"Make the comfort and well-being of your spouse your primary concern" (Hinckley)
• Not based on whether the other one is doing the same in your opinion. :)
• Say & do things to encourage, & help them be happy and successful, not dragged down by contention (we know where that comes from: 3 Nephi 11 says.) %%add link
• You don't want to harm your marriage by criticism. Better to cleave together, & not apart nor criticize each other to other people.
• And Sister Hinckley said she learned it worked better adjust to each other, not to try to change each other. (maybe was in Pres Hinckley biography.)