You do not have to tolerate any physical or verbal abuse, nor pay attention to demeaning comments.

• Sometimes we can learn from what others say, but not in a way that lets them control us. Only God can be trusted to that degree: we have to think, pray, learn.
• If others fail, we hopefully can be kind, set wise trust boundaries/verification etc as needed, and work with them to the extent trust truly allows? main
• You do not need to be a doormat nor tolerate abuse. Sometimes, if the Spirit concurs (and we are not acting impulsively or in anger), we communicate clearly.
• There are some helpful problem-solving resources for marriages and families.