Prerequisite?: they have a to-do list and things get written on it, and it is checked habitually, periodically. OR a perfect memory or tell me how to pester.

• Ie, am I going to be their secretary? How and when do they like to be pestered? This can be OK for close family members. Or for people I see often enough?
• OR, I am willing AND ABLE to hang around them long enough to wait for the perfect moment, or guess at how to remind periodically and wait patiently.
• Without this, why discuss anything if it just gets dropped right there? An honest question.