When something goes wrong or you're upset, you could think thoughts like these

• (These are just ideas. Do not let them substitute for praying, being safe, and getting counsel from wise, experienced persons.)
• I don't believe the other is an evil person, so:
• how can i understand their perspective and what they're thinking/feeling?
• PRAY! be humble before the Lord. seek the Spirit.
• After having given them time, listened to how they feel, and reassured them of your caring...
• ....caring, then think how to best help them understand how you feel
• Be patient, give it some time, think how you can show love & support for that person.
• Sometimes is best just to wait & not say anything at all, but to just think it over, see what you can learn or maybe the other will relax & be able to explain.
• Do not make hasty decisions. Never be accusing or condemning. Sometimes, waiting 3 days before saying something negative has big benefits. (If it is safe! )
• You do not have to tolerate any physical or verbal abuse, nor pay attention to demeaning comments.
• You can think: this is an opp'ty 4 me 2 become a better person, how can i become better, more kind/understanding/patient.
• Critical, crucial, important or difficult conversations, listening, communication skills, decision-making, problem-solving, handling disagreements convs main
• You do not need to be a doormat nor tolerate abuse. Sometimes, if the Spirit concurs (and we are not acting impulsively or in anger), we communicate clearly.